When girls and boys are going off to college, there may be some anxiety about starting a new school. If they live on campus, they can easily get overwhelmed with the process and what to expect. But, having girls or boys go away to a large city college can be even more stressful. Today, we will talk about girls, particularly going away to a college in the city. I hope you and your daughter get some tips out of my interview with my daughter.
We are about an hour outside of a major city. We have farms. We commonly have deer that can easily cross the road and cause accidents—birds of prey that can swoop down and take small animals and rodents. Clearly, we are not in a city at all.
I was only 15 minutes from downtown when I grew up, and my "street smarts" were a lot more attuned to where I lived. But my daughter did not have that. (Nor did my son, for that matter.) We live in a lovely area with a lower-than-national average crime rate, and our houses are farther apart from one another.
So, when my daughter told us she wanted to go to school in the city, we were a little nervous. My husband was from the city, and we visited my mother-in-law, who lived in the city, and the kids were attracted to the hustle and bustle of city life.
While spending time with my daughter, who is now a junior in college, I asked her to give me feedback for this post. While she felt that she didn't have as much advice since she started school right before COVID happened, she did give me some help with this post. Read on and get some advice for your daughter.
Daughters Going Away to the City for College Tips
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- Daughters Going Away to the City for College Tips
- Empower Yourself, not Frighten Yourself.
- Be Yourself but Explore a New You.
- Eat Healthy Meals and Snacks.
- Be Aware of Your Stress Level.
- Stay active and interact with others.
- Keep in mind that Girls Going to College need to stay safe.
- Volunteering will help others and yourself.
- Explore the City in a Group.
- Stay connected with Mom and Dad.
- Create a Freshman Binder for Your Daughter
- Stay organized in your dorm.
- Keep using an Academic Planner.
Empower Yourself, not Frighten Yourself.
Remember that going to a new college, you need to be aware of your surroundings. Be sure to stay in safe (Affiliate Link) areas on campus until you figure out where there are safe (Affiliate Link) neighborhoods. Just in case, carry Mace/Pepper Spray keychain with you if you need to use it. My daughter did not need it or use it, but it helped her feel less nervous.
Having a cell phone with you at all times is essential. They should know how to call for an emergency on their cellphone. Here is the page on how to do it on an Apple iPhone. If they have an Android phone, here are the instructions.
Be Yourself but Explore a New You.
Be open to different experiences. Pick ones that are a little stretch for you. Stay away from the ones that make you feel uneasy or overwhelmingly nervous.
Eat Healthy Meals and Snacks.
This is one that I think every first-year student forgets to do until it is too late. When we are stressed, we are more likely to eat comfort foods. However, those comfort foods do not usually help us feel strong and healthy. Some options for fit snacking are apples, berries, and low-sugar power bars. Feel free to check out our post for a complete list: EASY HEALTHY SNACKS FOR COLLEGE STUDENTS DORM LIFE
Be Aware of Your Stress Level.
Stress can affect us in many ways. And we find out "those ways" in college. Using breathing techniques to help calm down and think more clearly is very helpful. Visit this post called "How to Reduce Stress With Breathing Exercises" from Very Well Mind for tips.
Stay active and interact with others.
Go to places like the gym and student activities to interact with other students outside classes. Reach out to people in classes and ask them to meet up at a college-run activity. Loneliness is common during the first semester, so reaching out is essential. Get a group of more than three people together and go to activities on campus like bingo.
Keep in mind that Girls Going to College need to stay safe.
Keep in mind that being safe (Affiliate Link) is also a priority. Don't walk around at nighttime. Stay on brightly lit streets. Always walk with at least two other people. Walk around when everyone else is walking around during the day. Don't leave the campus boundaries. Know exactly where the campus boundaries are and where they are not.
Volunteering will help others and yourself.
Being a part of something bigger than oneself is what college is all about. Volunteering will help with that and meet like-minded individuals in the process.
Explore the City in a Group.
Explore the city in a group during the daytime. Make it a point to be a tourist on Saturdays. Going to different popular landmarks allows for exploration and helps one feel comfortable in the city for the next four years. Schoolwork can wait till Sunday or Saturday night.
Stay connected with Mom and Dad.
Calling Mom and Dad once a week will allow for venting about what is happening in the dorm or class. This helped my daughter when dealing with issues. But, as a parent, you must let go of the conversation after you hang up with her. Moms and Dads want to help, but, in some cases, we can't, and they need to figure it out for themselves. Allow your daughter to learn through the process.
Create a Freshman Binder for Your Daughter
Giving your daughter one place to hold all the necessary paperwork that may be floating around her bedroom for her new life in the city is helpful and appreciated. While they may not use it often, it is a way to help your daughter without helping your daughter. Visit how I made my daughter's DIY Freshman Year Binder.
Stay organized in your dorm.
Keeping the dorm less cluttered will make for easy clean-up and management. My daughter kept bringing stuff and buying new things that by the end of the school year, we had to use two cars to get all her stuff. Remember, stuff is just stuff. Bring things that comfort, but not too much. It can get out of hand in a small dorm room. Visit our posts about helpful organizing essentials for dorm life.
Keep using an Academic Planner.
A great academic planner (Affiliate Link) will save you every time. Whether you are a digital planner person or a paper planner person, have a system in place BEFORE going off to college. The digital planner works for most people. But, for visually and tactile people, a paper-based planner may be better for you. I particularly like the Order Out of Chaos academic planner (affiliate).
By sharing these tips with your daughter, you and her will feel more comfortable going away to college. I hope these girls going to college tips help you and your daughter go away to a city college more easily.
Soon I will share tips for Boys going away to college for the first time. Stay tuned!!!
Join the conversation! Did you go to a city college? What tips would you add to the ones above that would help a freshman girl? Please comment below. We would love to hear from you.
Visit some of these posts that I came across from other experts while doing this research:
Tips for Staying Safe at College
10 Tips for Surviving at a Women's College
College Safety for Women: 10 Smart Steps for New Students
Dear Daughter Headed Off to College: Don’t Let the World Pass You By
Nancy Haworth says
Thanks for these helpful tips! My daughter is about to start college (in a city, but she's lived in a city most of her life). Your safety and stress-reduction advice is very timely!
Diane N Quintana says
Fabulous tips! I grew up in a city, have lived in the country but truly have spent most of my life in and very near city life. It is very different and requires a different awareness. I really like that you point out carrying mace or pepper spray helped your daughter feel safer - even though she never used it. I also loved your guide on how to call for help with both types of cellular platforms. It is so important. Also, both young girls and boys need to be independent but not reckless with their personal safety. Your advice is great to have. I'm looking forward to reading your next post.
Janet Schiesl says
These are all great ideas no matter where you are going to college. New experiences and challenges every day can get overwhelming, so I like that you said to stay in touch with mom and dad.
Julie Bestry says
Great post! I'm curious how your advice will differ for boys vs. girls, as personal safety and reproductive health were the only issues I could think of where advice would differ. I'm a strictly suburban girl, lost in the country (deer!) and the city, but I remember my college days clearly and loved this advice, particularly "Be yourself but explore a new you." I enjoyed following your links, and am a big fan of the freshman binder. (I'm also reading your healthy snacks link while eating a PB&J!)
Sabrina Quairoli says
I’m looking forward my interview with my college senior son to see what he recommends too for freshman boys. It should be interesting.
Ronni Eisenberg says
This is a terrific post. It’s helpful and filled with important tips for safety. It’s a gift to girls who are not used to city life.
I love your suggestion about walking and exploring in groups, at least with 2 other people. There’s strength in numbers. This is also so important when going out in the evening and returning back to the dorm.
I really liked what you said here, “BE YOURSELF BUT EXPLORE A NEW YOU. Be open to different experiences. Pick ones that are a little stretch for you. Stay away from ones that make you feel uneasy or overwhelmingly nervous.” Going away to college is about growth and change and learning more about yourself. This is true in the city and everywhere else.
Lucy Kelly says
Wise words, Sabrina. This is a great resource for safety even to a college that's not exactly the big city. No matter where they are, our kids have to balance having fun with staying safe.
Seana Turner says
I had a girl go to college in DC. I was worried about safety. There are various options now to help, such as escorts and vans that you can call. The important point, which you are making here, is that the girls need to take the situation seriously and not just set off on their own, especially at night. It is easy to think "it is just a few blocks," but you need to take the precaution each and every time.
Linda Samuels says
These are all excellent suggestions. Both of our daughters went to colleges in cities- Baltimore and Boston. They grew up in the suburbs with access to New York City, so they had a bit of "city training" before going off to college.
One of the other things I impressed upon them was that if they did go off exploring, always let someone (a friend, dorm, or roommate) know where they were. Having a cell phone on them was great, but that added protection of someone else knowing where you were was also part of the safety protocol.
Sabrina Quairoli says
Great tip! Thanks for sharing.
Margarita Ibbott says
I loved this post. I'm pretty sure I followed links to at least 3 more posts! Great suggestions. My daughters are in Teacher's College now so 'pros' at this point in time but you can always learn great tip here!